The best kind of friends are your best friends. They know everything about you, they love you unconditionally, and their friendship means the world to you.
Childhood Best friends
Do you have a childhood best friend? Does your child have a best friend? I personally have one that I still talk to 25 years later. We lost touch in our teenage years, and then on a stroke of luck we were living in the same town and only 5 minutes from each other. We were able to reconnect and have been keeping in touch for years now thanks to Facebook, since we now live about 4 hours away from each other.
My husband has his childhood best friend , who is more like a brother to him. They talk at least once a week if not more. His best friend is also the godfather to Chief, and he is a great person to take over for us if it were ever needed.
As for Chief, he has a best friend, who is great. They truly have the most precious friendship. Seeing the two of them greet each other after not seeing one another for a week is the best. Our favorite meeting place is at the community park. Usually one of us will get there before the other, and watching these two run to each other screaming in happiness is AMAZING. Here is to hoping they stay friends for the next 50+ years.
This seems to be a harder task in todays day and age. When we were younger friendships were so easy to come by. You basically walked out the front door and starting playing with whoever was in sight. It didn’t matter if they were the cool kids, the popular kids, the dorky kids, or the odd kids. We were all just kids looking for some fun.
I grew up in that iconic suburban neighborhood. We all played together, front doors were always unlocked, you played outside until the lights came on or you heard Ms. Norma’s whistle to come home. We played hockey in the streets, moving our full-sized goals out-of-the-way when everyone started screaming car. We played manhunt, we roller skated, the boys skateboarded, we cause mischief and most of all we had fun. You found out where your friends were by seeing who’s bikes were in what yard, you knocked once and walked inside announcing that you were joining in.
Today its much more difficult. There are no kids outside playing, and finding friends is difficult unless your old enough to be in public school. Being that Chief is only 3, he has had limited access to other children. Luckily as a stay at home mom we are able to attend playdates, local events, story time and much more. We love meeting new friends at the events and at our favorite place of all, the park. Meeting friends at the park is great because you can see if their playing style and personality meets that of your child. You are also able to engage the parents, get to know each other and schedule playdates for the future.
Living Near or Far
This is a topic that affects most friends at some point and time. People move, either in the same city or to other states completely. We will be tackling this topic with Chief in the future, as both us and his best friends family are planning to move to different states as soon as out homes sell. To make it easier, we have already planned on multiple visits from each family. There is so much to explore in this world and what better way to do it, then with your best friend.
Distance can make or break a friendship. No matter how strong it once was, living far away can be difficult. It’s very important that you take the time to stay in touch, even if it is just once a month. This is why we will be making sure that we stay in touch with Hadley girl, as Chief calls her.
Staying in touch
This is the most important part about friendships. Staying in touch can be difficult. Especially once you get older and life starts getting in the way. Luckily with technology today, it makes staying in touch so much easier. There is Facebook, instagram, twitter, FaceTime and so much more.
Personally, my favorite way to communicate is good old fashion snail mail. Who doesn’t love getting letters in the mail? Even if it is something as easy as saying hello, how are you? Something about hand writing a letter makes it so much more special. Since Chief is still young and not really into writing at the moment, his letters may not be more than a scribbled drawing. But that is a child’s way of communicating with their friends. Just make sure you include a cheat sheet for the other parents.
Once we move, or Hadley girl moves, we will begin our first long distance friend ship. Filled with lots of drawings, and little objects that we can send her. Then once we are both settled in our new homes, we will beginning with the visits to each other. There will be so much to explore, and so much fun to be had. I can not wait for this journey for him, and for him to continue to foster his friendship with his Hadley girl.
Here’s to many great adventures with your best friend.